We had the good fortune of connecting with Teresa Ortiz and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Teresa, what’s the most important thing you’ve done for your children?
“Instead of trying to give your kids everything you didn’t have, focus on teaching them everything you didn’t know.”-unknown I love this question so much and it instantly made me think of a quote that I read not too long ago that really struck me and made me pause…
Once I became a mother at 17 years old, I inherently, and now realize even subconsciously, abandoned my dreams and greatest desires for my life as a way of manifesting and confessing my love and commitment to my new role as a mother. Obviously I didn’t want to neglect my dreams but I thought that’s just what parents were supposed to do.
It wasn’t until about a year ago I had this breakthrough in life and in my relationship with my daughter that it finally dawned on me that I was a prisoner of my own personal beliefs and self inflicted limitations. No matter what I did, I felt that in order for anything I had ever done in my life make sense, it meant that I had to always sacrifice a part of me for her, my daughter. Thats how I chose to accept the best version of myself as a mother until I had nothing else to sacrifice. Not a dream, not the feeling of hope, not the bliss of seeing what tomorrow would bring. The empty feeling that I had embodied, translated into every aspect of me–my work, my relationships, and how I viewed myself and in moments when life required the best of me or allowed me to shine, I couldn’t. I almost didn’t even know how to. But as the demands of being an up and coming Realtor grew bigger, I was forced to stretch as an individual and forced to dig within myself to rediscover the best parts of me, the strong parts of me in order to survive and provide in this industry. And in doing so, that required a lot of honesty and humility from myself because, after all, it was me that I was resisting and fighting against. Getting into the real estate industry two years ago with nothing else and with nothing to lose, it made me feel like I was limitless again and that almost nothing was impossible if I could just believe in myself–so why couldn’t I embrace the abundance this industry could potentially offer me or why wasn’t it resonating well with me? Well, because I was dreaming again and I had taught myself that that’s just not what a good parent does. So then I reconciled. I reconciled with the notion that my value as a good parent was determined by how much that I was sacrificing. It absolutely didn’t have to be “either-or” when it came to tending to my own abundance as well as my daughters. Reclaiming my power and stepping into my light was and is the greatest impact that I could ever have on my child. She will see what it truly means to chase a dream and also know what it feels like to be loved by someone that loves themselves, too. She will see that nothing is impossible and love is fluid and free. She will see what it looks like to unlearn and unravel generations of trauma and beliefs. I am not a perfect mother, not even a perfect person. But being real with myself has created authentic love for my true role as a mother–the role that I once denied myself for so long.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I am a Real Estate Broker at Keller Williams Realty Downtown. I am a solo agent and have vested my absolute best qualities into my work. I had to drop out of college my senior year in order to help provide for my mother who was diagnosed with breast cancer during that time and for my daughter. I wanted so badly to be able to say that I had graduated from high school with a newborn baby and also graduated from my dream college on a full-ride scholarship. But, I realized that sometimes there are detours in life that you just have to take. And in that detour, I was led to the realization that I am a natural born leader and have the capabilities to run my own business. Being in the real estate industry allows me to express my zest for marketing and brand development while also incorporating my college background in business and accounting.
Getting into real estate was somewhat easy because I finished the coursework in 3 months and passed the state and federal exam my first try. The hardest part was actually sustaining my own personal belief that I would and will succeed in this industry as my own boss and deflecting the beliefs that others had for my life. Convincing people that I could and would conquer the obstacles that being an entrepreneur brings is no longer on my to-do list. I’ve learned that I will disappoint people while in the pursuit of living my dreams for my life instead of theirs. I also learned that wealth is in attitude and ones ability to cope and accept with the realities and facts of life. Once I was able to let go of the version that I thought I had to be because of all the roles that I embody, I was finally able to rediscover and actually grow into those roles instead of fearing and resisting them.
I want people to know that often times that it is in moments of adversity that things become crystal clear. Once one is able to embrace and understand adversity in a productive way, solutions will come about and that is where the power is. To know both the problem and the solution is how I’ve been able to understand the world. I hope to be source of hope and reminder that where there is will, there is a way.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I would take them to Cafe Brazil for an early dinner and hope that they order the Cazuela Colombiana. I would then take them down to RiNo which is where I live and grew up! specifically to Number 38 for live music or to The Ramble Hotel for a good drink.
For an early day, I would start at my favorite coffee shop which is Allegro coffee on Tennyson and then we would go for a stroll in Boulder or North Table Mountain.
For lunch we would go get Angelos for their oysters or to CRU wine bar for their AMAZING wine selection and charcuterie boards.
I love RiNo and the really neat places that are coming about. I grew up in the heart of RiNo so it will always have a special place in my heart.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I would like to shoutout my mentor, Michael for believing in me and seeing what I couldn’t and helping me put it into fruition. I would also like to dedicate my story to my daughter Francis and to any young mother that feels diminished like I once did.
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