Meet Rebecca Dollard | Somatic Life Coach and Mentor

We had the good fortune of connecting with Rebecca Dollard and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Rebecca, have there been any changes in how you think about work-life balance?
Balance is something every client I have worked with, has wanted help with. It’s on every client intake form as a goal of theirs in working with me. As a mom who is also an entrepreneur growing a business and raising babies, I live out and coach on balance very differently than many may assume. A lot of moms come to me thinking that the balance they are after will come in the form of a perfect morning routine, a perfect life system, or perfect time management. They think balance is something they are doing wrong, not an active skill and trait that we are going to build.

For women craving balance, especially between our work and motherhood, what I’ve found most women really need and are craving is self-leadership.
Self-leadership is a skill we can learn so that we are able to respond and react with intention and our values. Entrepreneurship and motherhood are alike in that they are constantly shifting and changing. This means balance actually looks like being able to be both strong and flexible, able to adapt with and respond to the ever changing needs of our families and our work.

Self-leadership creates balance by building an embodied position where you are present and intentionally choosing. It’s like driving a car and learning for the first time how to use and trust the gas and the brake. A car always going 80 miles an hour is trouble when that car is about to be in a neighborhood or has a steep turn up ahead. Balance is not an even speed or plan, it’s the ability to adapt to the speed we need. A car going 80 miles an hour on an open highway feels like freedom. Moms seeking balance are often looking for just the right “speed” instead of the self-leadership to be able to change our speed or direction when life needs it.
I’m highly ambitious, but I didn’t trust my ambition to not burn me out-until I trusted my brakes and my boundaries to also prioritize my family and my own health and well-being. That is balance to me. Building the self and life leadership through boundaries and other leadership skills to be able to be responsive.
The other part of balance is letting go of the ideas of the perfect motherhood or business. Often we are tangibly aware of the ideal, and it has us missing the magic in the mess that can’t be “balanced” no matter how hard we try. We may as well enjoy the ride. But a ride isn’t very enjoyable when you don’t trust the breaks or gas- so enjoying the chaos goes hand in hand with self leadership.

What should our readers know about your business?
The Motherhood Mentor and my new branch of coaching for moms who are business owners, The Nourished CEO, are both about investing in and helping the helpers.

As a mom and as a CEO, the energy for your family and your business, comes from you. You are the woman wearing the hats. You are the one who is leading all these spaces, my work is helping you lead yourself and equipping you with boundaries, deep self work, and nourishment to be able to navigate this season in a way that feels really good.
I love getting to hold space for the space holders, help the helpers, and lead the leaders. We get to block off intentional time and energy for caring for your needs and creating space for you. There is something so life-giving and incredible to make a room where these women can be fully seen, loved, and cared for.

Everything you do, can either be built on the back of your burnout and self forgetting, or you can build a motherhood or a business, or both on the nourishment and health of you and your family.

As a coach I use somatic mind-body coaching, enneagram, shadow work, inner child and teen healing, boundaries, emotions coaching, and leadership coaching in a diverse and yet easy to digest way. I take all the best parts of mind and body coaching so that we can not only develop strategies, systems, and boundaries- but have the nervous system regulation and care to back that all up and feel good while doing it.

I’m so excited that I’m now back to one of my first visions for The Motherhood Mentor, small circles of women meeting in person. We are 5 months into my first in person local life mastermind called Circle, and it has been the most life giving room. Circle Mastermind is a small depth group for women to get in the weeds and the dreams of our lives together over coffee. We meet once a month for 2.5-3 hrs for coffee,coaching, and connection, have a voxer chat group, and then meet quarterly for a fun girls night or a mini retreat. This last month we did dinner and then a pottery class with Flingin Pots in Fort Collins. It was so fun and I’m looking forward to new groups starting in 2024.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
If my best friend was visiting I would definitely plan a girls night out for her first night here to go eat dinner at Simmer Fort Collins and then go do a pottery class together at Flingin Pots. I just recently did that with my mastermind group and it was a great evening! We’d definitely go get coffee and avocado toast at CoffeeHouse29 while dreaming and scheming about life and maybe take a walk around Windsor lake after if it’s nice.

If she brought her kids with, we would go take our kids to the new LINC library in Greeley and then get lunch somewhere fun in downtown Greeley.
Of course while in downtown Greeley we’d stop in to Brooklyn Finds Designs, Blush, and then Charley and Co on the way back. Scheels is always a fun afternoon and the kids love the new candy shop there where we can bribe them for more shopping time for the moms.

I love living in Northern Colorado because we have all these different cities all close by to be able to visit!

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
My list of supporters, mentors, and people who have helped me get here and to stay in integrity and peace here, is too long even for an entire blog solely dedicated to it. Something I took on early in building my business was the value and standard of investing in and asking for support and help. And then learning to receive it, while still being in my own self leadership.

This looked like so many friends and family cheering me on. This also looked like the support of people that I hired to be coaches, mentors, and the many certifications I have invested in as well.

Asking for help and then receiving help used to be so uncomfortable for me. Especially when help came in the form of others offering me compassion, connection, and care, not just practical tangible support on the daily of building a business, but in having peers, friends, and not feeling lonely.
Entrepreneurship can feel like motherhood in that it’s easy to feel isolated and lonely in your day to day and in the big moves you are making, but finding people who are also in the weeds to be able to relate to, vent to, and most importantly believe and encourage your totally crazy ambitious dreams or visions that you totally don’t have time for? They are the life of my “solopreneur” business. And then there are all the countless clients who from the beginning also invested in and trusted ME and my work. I wouldn’t be who I am or where I am, without sitting with them.

I’ve never been a solopreneur, in that I have always surrounded myself and put myself in rooms with others who were there in not just the growth and the success with me- but those who were in all the messy middles and freak outs that are just as pivotal.

Website: https://www.the-motherhood-mentor.com/

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