We had the good fortune of connecting with Rashona French, MA and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Rashona, what’s one piece of conventional advice that you disagree with?
Good question. You know, throughout our lives, we’ve all been told or advised on lot of “shoulds.” How we should be living, what we should and should not do with our time, how we should behave, and I’m sure you can think of many, many more. The thing is, these tidbits of conventional advice or life subscriptions as I like to call them have been passed down through the generations. Some of which have come from time periods that don’t match the 21st century we currently live in. As a society, we have come to accept this advice through repetition and exposure as normal and, using the phrase, ‘it is the way it is’ to rationalize these beliefs. In believing and accepting these bits of conventional advice, we have either voluntarily or involuntarily subscribed to the beliefs of others. I think its ironic you asked me this question because I just ran an online workshop on how to unsubscribe from limiting societal beliefs. Your question was what’s one piece of conventional advice that I disagree with. There are so many, but for now I’ll choose work, ‘hard and play later.’ Think back to when you were young. Have you ever heard someone say this before either to you or someone else? I know I have. Now that I’m an adult, I have taken the time to evaluate this ‘life subscription.’ I’ve decided it is not something I want to continue subscribing to, actually I’d like to unsubscribe from it. The thing is, for those of us who may live by this belief or idea, we may find that we always have time for work even when we’re off the clock, we’re still seem to be working. Whether it’s never ending house work, parenting, answering emails, preparing for work tomorrow, or what ever the case may be, many of us don’t know how to shut down or take a genuine break. Now think about a time when you finally made the time to prioritize fun or self-care to “treat” yourself. Do you sometimes get an unsettling feeling that comes over you? Like you should be doing something else, or it feels like something’s not right? It’s because for years, you’ve been conditioned to believe work always comes first, and all the fun stuff comes later. So when you finally get to a point where you can sit down to take that well deserved break, you start to get racing thoughts. Instead of self-care time, your thinking did I remember to do this, did I forget to do that, I should check my emails, I should clean the kitchen, or maybe I should be folding that basket of laundry. The list goes on and on only causing you more anxiety than before you tried to take that break. I think it’s important to give ourselves permission to finally unsubscribe from the beliefs and ideas that don’t help us build the life we were meant to live. I believe that once we break free from these chains we become free to build a foundation based on what we want to get out of your life. After all, you are the only one who wakes up every morning and sees the world through your eyes. For me, this bit of conventional advice or life subscription does not help me on the life path I have chosen for myself, so I have chosen to unsubscribe from it.
What should our readers know about your business?
I’m the founder and owner of Blissful Relations: Psychotherapy & Mediation Services and I provide mental health, life coaching, and mediation services for those wanting to take that next step in their life journey. My business was designed with the lifestyle philosophy of Live Life on Purpose (LiveLOPS). LiveLOPS is a lifestyle philosophy that empowers you to live the life you want to live. Through my work, I help people live their lives on purpose according to their own strengths, weaknesses, and boundaries. Blissful Relations is about the journey you take to discover who you are as an individual. Its about building and strengthening that deep connection within yourself so that you can grow to love and appreciate the unique qualities that makes you, you. I run a solution focused private practice that is designed to get you from a feeling of being stuck and hopeless to feeling empowered and hopeful. I help clients master their mindset to over come past traumas, and manage their anxiety so they can build the confidence they need to start living life on purpose according to their own unique strengths, weaknesses, and boundaries. What sets me apart is that I combine my skills as a counselor, a coach, and a conflict resolution specialist to come up with a unique method of practice. I’m proud to say that my unique method has been proven to help many people heal from the inside out. Many of the people who have worked with me have grown so much and have learned to love and appreciate themselves for who they are. One of my most favorite things I love about the work that I do is being able to watch the transformation of a person from the moment we first meet to the last day of their therapeutic journey with me. This is something that brings me joy and something I look forward to with every one of of the lovely people I have the opportunity of working with. From the perspective of business, it was not easy building Blissful Relations. There were many ups and downs, many of which I was able to overcome but not without the help of my wonderful support team. When I decided to build a business I knew I wanted to transform the world by helping people within the community through counseling and coaching services. What I didn’t know was actually how to run a business if you can believe that. Along my journey I have met the most amazing guardian angels who have helped guide me to where I am today. The takeaway from this is that no matter how hard we think things may be, there’s almost always a silver lining in most situations. You just have to know how to find it and where to look. On a personal note, I’m a pretty openminded and free-spirited person with a taste for culture, exploration, and adventure. I believe in freedom of choice, and freedom to love whomever you choose. I find great value in human connection, self-care, and living life to the fullest. I’m a mother, a wife, a partner, and a lifestyle/nature photographer. That being said, I am human just like you, and I am by no means perfect. My therapeutic style has been shaped by the personal and professional experiences I’ve gained over the years. I’m a firm believer that love is infinite, unconditional, natural, and it cannot be controlled. I also believe that no two people are exactly alike. This is why I choose to keep the therapeutic environment of Blissful Relations a safe and welcoming place for all to feel accepted without fear of being judged. I believe having access to a positive healing environment fuels the most amazing results. As a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community, I welcome all identities and relationship types with open arms. Whether you identify as LGBTQ+ or are considering Polyamory, Swinger, Open Relations, or anywhere within the BDSM/Kink community lifestyle spectrum; this is a safe space for you.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
To answer this question it’s important to note that I’m a spontaneous, adventure seeking, free spirit with a thirst for knowledge and culture. That being said, throughout the course of the week I would be sure to treat my best friend to a French breakfast in Fort Collins. One of my favorite restaurants in Northern Colorado is La Creperie & French Bakery. Since my trip to France, this little place is the most authentic place I have found in this area. I absolutely adore it. Living up north, we would take a trip up to see Estes Park, which is such a pretty place. Not to mention the Stanley Hotel and the Rocky Mountain National Park which are a must see. I would take my bestie on some of my favorite hikes which I know she would like. My friends and I enjoy getting out to dance every now and again. So I would take my friend down to Denver to La Rumba for a night of salsa dancing. At some point we would have to take a walk down Broadway to visit some of the shops down there. We would rent a cabin in Steamboat Springs for the weekend to do some exploring and to visit Strawberry Hot Springs. Since its only a week, I would have to tell her about some of the other places I want to show her so she starts planning her next trip.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I would love to dedicate my shoutout to my best friend & husband, Justin French. Justin is an arborist, or as I like to call him a tree doctor and the owner of Natural Cuts Tree Care. Justin works hard every day to help preserve the urban forests by helping to correct and prevent the spread of diseases that may harm your trees. Justin is an all around honest, dedicated, genuine, and loving person who cares deeply about the environment. He has been my rock and emotional support from the beginning of my journey. When times got hard, he has always been there by my side with a joke or a hug to help lift my spirits.
Other: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/80537/291686?sid=6024c1455f489&ref=11&tr=ResultsName