We had the good fortune of connecting with Alexis McCloskey and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Alexis, is there something that you feel is most responsible for your success?
Authenticity, consistency, and patience. And doing all of these things despite fear or having the desire. I think showing up as the most authentic version of myself is what attracts people to not only my social media, but to work with me. I am the SAME exact human in person, as I am on social media and I think other people want to know what that feels like. So if I can be vulnerable and be myself, it gives others the confidence and courage to do the same.
Consistency is about showing up IMPERFECTLY everyday. We live in a world that has taught us that we need to be perfect in order to be accepted or successful and you will simply burn yourself out trying to do that. I constantly fail forward and do it consistently, showing up no matter what.
And lastly patience. Our phones leave us with this need for instant gratification. We can push a button and get food or a car to our house, swipe right and date someone, or just see “overnight” successes on social media, so I really think people have a jaded idea of what it takes to see success. If you are patience with ANYTHING you are going through, you will eventually reach your goals. I always say, it’s not that you aren’t capable, it’s most likely you just haven’t given yourself enough consistent time.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
My passion is helping women identify and remove with blocking them from following through on whatever their goals are. Whether I’m working with someone that’s running a small business, trying to grow their YouTube or just simply want to improve their confidence and let go of limiting beliefs, my job is to help them figure out what the hell has been in the way of what they want.
I typically work with people that are in a place where they know what they wanna do or at least know they want to start achieving something, but they can’t figure out why the hell they can’t take those first steps. A lot of the people I help are self sabotaging and can’t really figure out why. Perfectionists, all or nothing thinkers, people with fear of failure, or just have a fear of being judged.
I’m most proud of myself for getting to the place where I know the best kinds of questions to ask. I tend to hear a lot from my clients that I ask questions they’ve never been asked before or in a way that helped them shift their perspective that they haven’t been able to do either on their own or with someone else
I think what sets me apart from others is not that I have some magic skill that makes me better than anybody else, but that I have an innate and intuitive way of seeing through peoples stories and BS excuses. I am definitely tough love, if you go to my social media you’ll see I am a self proclaimed “tough love coach”, and I think that the people who are ready for that kind of coaching and and work vibe well with me. Many people are able to work through hurdles that they’ve been stuck on for years, because I don’t know allow them to limit themselves with excuses that have limiting beliefs attached to them.
I got where I am today for the same reasons that I am successful in helping my clients – because I had to go through it all myself. I was really tired of my own BS excuses, being stuck in this victim mentality, and constantly throwing pity parties for myself. I went through an emotionally abusive relationship, eating disorders, homelessness, and simply realized that I could either try to make everyone feel bad for me or I could take responsibility for my life and for the things that I’ve been through.
My coaching has evolved so much throughout the years and I really had to overcome the biggest hurdle of caring about what people thought about me. Whether it came to family and friends who didn’t think what I was doing was going to be sustainable or pivoting the path of what my coaching looked like and then letting go of the idea that I was leaving anyone behind. I always had to do what was best for me and sometimes that meant losing people.
I think the biggest lesson I had to learn was a being OK with being myself and that not everyone was going to like me. I spent a lot of years trying to find happiness and validation through others. I eventually realized that there’s only one version of me and if people don’t like me then I’m not gonna waste my life trying to prove myself to them, I’m just gonna be here to serve the people that want to sit at my table.
What I want people to know about me, my brand, and my story is what I learned myself and that I can help them see the corners of their mind that they may not have dug into yet. That if they get past their victim mentality and excuses as to why they can’t be successful or have the life that they want, they will realize that their life, mind, body, and soul can feel a million times better than they ever imagined.
I spent a lot of my life thinking that the way I felt physically and mentally was just the way everybody had to feel, but I realized that life can feel pretty amazing if you give it a chance and do the uncomfortable work necessary to let go of those excuses.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I’m still new to the area as I got married in October and moved here at the very beginning of November, so I can’t lie and say I know the best places to go just yet, but in general I think the beauty of Colorado is that there’s a little bit of everything here. Plus the constant sunshine doesn’t hurt.
If I were to take someone on a trip it would include lots of hiking but it would be challenging. I really like getting people outside their comfort zone, and I think the feeling after you do something that you think you can’t do is the best.
I love that Denver is so close to Boulder, so I definitely make a trip to a Rockies game because the sites are beautiful and there are so many bars in Denver have rooftops, so it’s not hard to not only find really good food but amazing cocktails and bars wherever you go. I love going anywhere that has a good bartender that knows how to make quality drinks, tacos, and stuff to do like a barcade. Just because we’re adults doesn’t mean we can act like kids.
I haven’t been to Meow Wolf yet, but I have some friends that have, so I would say that’s a definite must go and then of course if anybody’s coming here that has never been to a legal state, stopping at a dispensary is necessary.
If the time was right I would definitely take them further into the mountains to go snowboarding or even just check out the mountains because the views here are insane.
Since I’m a big fan of the EDM scene and Denver is an incredible place to see shows, I would take them to a cool venue like Mission, Church, or Black Box. So much great music to vibe to.
Lots of doing, but again, the views from any city of the mountains is amazing, so you can also find places. to just chill.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would love to shoutout every single person that has challenged me, called me out, or given me tough love. I may not have enjoyed it (or even received it well) at the time, but it’s been what has gotten me where I am. And also my mother for being the one that has instilled in me since I was young, to not be afraid to fail, and get back up again.
Other: Working on a new website, so all links to work with me are here: https://msha.ke/alexisrm/
For the wedding picture: https://www.instagram.com/lemomentcapturer/