We had the good fortune of connecting with Beth Kelley and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Beth, is there something that you feel is most responsible for your success?
The most important factor behind the success of my brand is trust..trusting myself, trusting the process, and trusting my client’s wisdom. Trust has many components; for me it is the ability to know who I am, who I can help, and how to say no. Trust is foundational to the success of a coaching relationship. Early in my career, I learned some very important and painful lessons that shaped the my beliefs about my business and helped me build this business of trust from the ground up.
The first lesson I learned was: I am not for everybody. Yep, I can’t please all of the people all of the time. And I am not the right fit for every client. And actually, I don’t want to be. It’s exhausting and ineffective. The more I accepted my own strengths and growth areas, the more I continued to attract the right clients, relationships and a sense of ease into my work. This realization led me to my next lesson: it is not in anyone’s best interest for me to say “yes” when I have a sense that I am not the right fit for a client (whether their need is outside my skill set, vision, or values). Once I pushed past the fear that I was somehow putting out bad karma and no one would ever call me again…and once I had enough experiences of the stress, doubt, and anxiety that gets created when I am working with people that don’t align with my skill set, vision, or values, I was able to say “no” to potential clients that I knew I couldn’t serve well. That doesn’t mean I don’t stretch myself to grow around my edges…because I do. But I had to trust my self, and my clients to know what will work for them (that is a major focus of the work). Because I really want clients to get what they need, I realized that if I said yes, when I ought to say no, I am robbing them of an opportunity to find someone else who is the perfect fit for them!
Showing up as my full self (for better or worse), allows my potential clients to get a sense of what working together might be. Then we can make an informed decision about whether or not we are the right fit. Reflected in that process is a sense of freedom and choice to pursue what is best for them (it’s like a mini-coaching experience either way!).
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
As a coach I work with people who want to connect deeply to their values and strengths in order to get unstuck, remove barriers, and to be more aligned and effective in their work and personal lives. I love my work. I love my clients. Accompanying people as they transform, shifting out of old patterns into new ways of being is my life’s work. My own professional life has really unfolded for me in a way I would not have necessarily expected, but as I reflect, I can see the connections and trajectory was so natural. It was all built by relationships. As a connector (I think that is my purpose) I naturally see connections, foster them, and am ever curious about how things come together. That is also a primary theme in my work with clients to connect to themselves, others, and the larger ecosystem where they live. And just because the connections have “unfolded” doesn’t mean the road was easy. It has been, at times, filled with self-doubt, judgement, and fear. I knew I had outgrown my psychotherapy practice and needed to evolve beyond the four walls of my office (both literally and metaphorically). Making the move into coaching was risky. What I have learned is how important it is to take imperfect action. Just do the thing. Take the step. Say the words. Change is created in tiny bits over time. Nothing is perfect. Just take the next right step in the direction that you intuitively know is right for you. I will be here to support you.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
I would definitely want to take my bestie to El Taco de Mexico for burritos to start the day off right. Then we would head to Salida to check out the artists on our way to the hot springs…either Mount Princeton or Joyful Journeys. The valley is so spectacular. After a couple of nights away we’d head back (using Highway 285) to town and hit the Bagel Deli for a sandwich and some soup. Then a quick stop at Gaetano’s for a cocktail at the beautiful old wooden bar, before heading home for some cards.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I wanna dedicate my shout out to the women who have nourished, supported, and challenged me my whole life. My mom, aunties, friends, therapists, mentors, colleagues, soul-sisters, ancestors, and teachers. It is because of your role-modeling, your insights, your experience, your love, and your wisdom that I have to courage to do my thang. Thank you.
Vika Tarasevich + The Clinemills Crew