We had the good fortune of connecting with Drewsilla (they, she, we) and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Drewsilla (they, she, we), we’d love to hear more about how you thought about starting your own business?
Firstly, I’d like to say that “business” has (capitalistic) connotations that I don’t really vibe with – rather, I am simply pursuing my life’s work, my chosen life purpose or path. That said, I am really inspired by this quote from the great Dolly Parton: “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” I first read this a few years ago, and started to ask myself, “Who am I, then? And how can I do that, how can I Be that in a purposeful way that sustains every part of my life?” It has taken some – okay, a lot – of internal work to get here, and I continue to do that work that allows me to live in my fullness of Being. Growing more confident every day, I know I am a gender-expansive goth alien witch healer from the future, which is right now! As a Lover of Life, an Intuitive Medium, a Queer Educator and a Personal Transformation Coach, I create safer and sacred spaces for healing and growth. Working with people in every time zone, I envision a world of deeply compassionate and interconnected people who are fully and unapologetically alive. I have been called a “permission witch,” a “safe harbor” and a “goofy goddexx.” And I’m so, so grateful to have my work so well-received.
Please tell us more about your work. We’d love to hear what sets you apart from others, what you are most proud of or excited about. How did you get to where you are today professionally. Was it easy? If not, how did you overcome the challenges? What are the lessons you’ve learned along the way. What do you want the world to know about you or your brand and story?
Wow wow wow. I imagine I could write an entire autobiography answering these questions (and I might just do that one day)! Answering these in order, no one can do Drewsilla like Drewsilla! Haha, but seriously! What sets me apart from others? They’re not me! And I am extremely proud of that. I know who I am and what I came here to do and that alone excites the heck out of me! To be so self-aware and so galvanized and focused at 32 years young is an amazing gift. And I intend to use that gift wisely. I am where I am largely because of my communities, and also a lot of self-work. I grew up believing that I was a problem to be fixed; that even the space I took up was an inconvenience to almost everyone. I had to shake off those stories in order to begin to hear my own Truth as it burns inside of me. From there, that inner fire has been my guiding light. Has it been easy? Absolutely not! Haha, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Everything I have been through, all of my scars, helped me get here today. Because of my own Becoming and practice of self-liberation, I am so inspired to help others do the same in their own right. It’s a small way I get to pay back the privileges that I have been afforded. As my mentor, Terra Anderson (they, them) has said, “Privilege is the power we have to affect change.” While I have certainly endured blatant discrimination and oppression as a Queer/Trans* human, I have also been given a lot of unearned privilege (being white, educated, and assigned male at birth). My job is to use that privilege to help others, in the ways they desire or require. I’m not trying to be anyone’s savior. But I am here to help in the work of our collective liberation, one person at a time.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
So, it often surprises people to learn that I am a bit of a homebody, an introvert at heart. That said, when friends come to visit we tend to share a lot of time and space in my living room – talking, drinking tea or wine, playing games, making art, reading and so forth. When I am feeling more adventurous, I love to be outside. I frequent Cheesman and City Parks, as well as various hiking trails in and around Denver. I absolutely love going up to Red Rocks Amphitheatre – whether or not a show is going on. There are a myriad of wonderful little shops and such on Broadway that I like to visit: Sputnik for vegan corn dogs, Awakening Boutique for almost anything our saucy selves may desire, Hope Tank for fun little tchotchkes and trinkets that also help mutual aid organizations, and Mutiny Information Cafe for all the good records and books and truly punk vibes. I also love going to a museum – Nature and Science, Clyfford Still, Contemporary Art… Oh, and when there isn’t a pandemic taking over, I looooove to go to almost any show at the Denver Center for Performing Arts, as well as the AMAZING Drag Shows that happen at Gladys Nightclub.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
Ohhhhh my goodness gracious. I am and have been SO BLESSED with community – friends, family (chosen and blood), teachers, therapists and mentors that have helped me get here. I will try to keep this succinct!
+ Hazel-Grace Yates (they, she) – amazing friend and mentor who, among playing so many other roles, was my teacher in the Sex Catalyst Academy, which helped hone my skills as a facilitator of personal transformation.
+ Terra Anderson (they, them) – founder of Embody Emerge; such a powerful human and Gender Justice Educator, has inspired so much of my personal Becoming and current work.
+ Nicole Parish (she, her) and Keith Sheldonport (he, him), respectively – both incredible friends and wildly skilled Mediums in their own right.
+ Authors and Activists: Priya Parker, Octavia E. Butler, adrienne marie brown, Judith/Jack Halberstam, Kate Bornstein and more.
+ I would be remiss if I didn’t at least mention the incomparable friendships of and collaborations with Crista Reid (she, they), Kayla Andersen (she, her), Page Regan (they, them), Tiff Damon (they, she), Carolyn Muller (they, them), Rachel Taulbee (she, her), and Rune Wittek (they, them), among so many others – you know who you are!
+ And lastly but certainly not leastly, my brilliant and beautiful partner Thea Halloran (they, she). Each one of you has held me in my tears and my laughter. I am constantly humbled and amazed by your kindness and compassion, as well as your sometimes-difficult-to-hear advice and motivation. Thank you thank you thank you!!
Photos by Seraphim Dibble Photos by Studios Eightyone Art by Rachel Taulbee