We had the good fortune of connecting with Melissa Snow and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Melissa, other than deciding to work for yourself, what was the single most important decision you made that contributed to your success?
Ten years ago, my first Life Coach asked me to finish this sentence: “I would be happy if only…” and I told her that I would be happy if only I hadn’t made so many bad decisions in my past that had led me to this place where I could never be happy, never be successful and never have the kind of life and love I really wanted. Her response changed my life forever. She said, “Your problem now is not all these bad choices you made – your problem now is the story you keep telling yourself about what that means about you and about the life you can have.” Deciding to believe her was the single most important decision I ever made. Deciding to believe that my fate had not been decided for me and that it was up to me to choose how my story ended changed everything for me. It allowed me to finally learn to take control of my thoughts and feelings and results rather than just sitting back and letting life happen to me. It’s the reason I finally have a happy, healthy relationship with a man, it’s the reason I’m closer with my family and it’s the reason I’m such an amazing friend. It’s what gave me the courage to start my own business, the drive to help other women and the perseverance to keep going, even when it’s hard. To know that I have the power to decide every single day who I want to be and what I want to do has been the most life-changing gift.
What should our readers know about your business?
As a Love and Life Coach, I help smart, successful women to improve their relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves. I spent so many years of my life not knowing my worth and it led me to make some really bad decisions in relationships. I was always depending on someone else to make me feel good about myself and in doing so I gave all my power away. When I finally learned to know myself, love myself and value myself more, I became so much happier and more empowered than ever. Now, I get to spend every day helping other women do the same. They come to me because they want to stop attracting the same kind of man over and over again or they want to fix whatever problems they have in their current relationship but what they walk away with is so much greater than that. They become happy, healthy and whole people who know how to meet their own needs, set their own boundaries, communicate more effectively and love unconditionally. When they do this, their romantic relationships aren’t the only thing that changes. Their other relationships get stronger, they finally lose the weight, they ask for the raise, they become better parents and they start to dream about goals they never thought were possible before. Getting to where I am today both personally and professionally has not been easy. I definitely had to climb back up from rock bottom but I’m actually glad it was that way – my struggles allow me to relate to my clients on a different level because I have been exactly where they are and now I’m where they want to be. I know exactly what it takes so I can draw them the roadmap and help them prepare for the obstacles I know they will encounter. Could they get there without me, on their own? Of course, but having me as their Coach gets them there in a way that is simpler, quicker and a heck of a lot more fun. Being an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart. It can be exhausting and it’s hard to keep going when you feel like nothing is working but I’ll never stop because I believe so strongly in my mission. I believe so strongly in my clients and the work they are doing to improve themselves and their lives. I get chills when I think about the impact of these women learning to love and value themselves and how that will trickle down to impact their daughters and their granddaughters. That’s what keeps me going, even when it’s hard.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
We’d definitely have to head up to Fort Collins for at least a few days – we’d have brunch at Lucille’s (Hank’s eggs and a buttermilk biscuit, of course!) and then go walk around the CSU campus. I am an alumni so I could point out some highlights, and the Oval is gorgeous any time of year. Then we’d wander around the fun shops in Old Town and eat at Coopersmith’s – one of my faves. We’d also have to spend a day on Pearl Street in Boulder and grab some beers at the Post. In Denver we’ll hit up the art museum, 16th Street Mall, Union Station and the Denver Botanic Gardens. At some point we’ll have to grab some food at Stueben’s, Denver Biscuit Company and Hops and Pie. We would also have to catch at least one show at Red Rocks, check out the elk bugling in Estes, hit up Garden of the Gods and maybe some hot springs. We will be busy because Colorado has so many amazing things to offer!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I feel so fortunate that the Universe has always brought the exact right people into my life at the exact right time and there are way too many of them to name. My first Life Coach, Cheryl Bartlett, changed my life forever by helping me to realize it was never too late to change how my story ends. She taught me, inspired me and empowered me to do amazing things. I also could not be where I am today without my family. They have always loved me, encouraged me and believed in me, even when I didn’t believe in myself.