We had the good fortune of connecting with Rebecca Nowosielski and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Rebecca, we’d love to hear about how you approach risk and risk-taking
I think about risk as less of a gamble, and more as the process of making a decision. To me, making any decision includes three parts: educating myself, trusting in my abilities, and trusting my gut. If all of those things point me in a direction, that is the way I go. Making a decision becomes more difficult when there isn’t cohesion in direction between the three parts that help drive choice. When that’s the case, there are eight qualities I consider to help me gain more cohesion in direction: being calm, confident, clear, connected, curious, courageous, creative, and compassionate. I ask, which of these qualities do I feel will best serve me to make this decision, and work to cultivate more of that quality or qualities. I see life as a constant dance with risk. Big or small, we are always making decisions that impact the direction of our lives. I wonder, if a decision that feels riskier is one that simply feels most unfamiliar and is hardest to trust? If for a moment we say that is the case, the decisions that I make that feel the riskiest, are the ones that redirect my path. The decisions that feel less risky are the ones that I make to keep me on that path. For instance, when I made the decision to change careers from design and innovation to become a Couples and Individual Therapist, that was a seemingly risky and unfamiliar choice. What has made me successful in that career path change, are the seemingly less risky, but equally important decisions that keep me dedicated to that path.
What should our readers know about your business?
My journey to becoming a therapist began with my first therapeutic experiences. At a young age, my parents encouraged me to use therapy as a resource to support me through difficult transitions. The positive therapeutic support I received showed me the power of an unbiased external support system. Out of high school, I had a passion towards elegant design and the built environment we all interact with on a daily basis. After getting an undergraduate and graduate degree in Architecture, I spent years practicing problem solving and creativity. I then transitioned my architectural knowledge to a more business-oriented form of creativity and problem solving, and spent eight years running a Design and Invention Company. Over those years, I only thought about pursuing a career as a therapist until one day I decided to take the leap and enroll in a Masters of Marriage and Family Therapy program. My decision to change careers and start my therapy practice took a lot of conviction, hard work, dedication, and support from my loved ones – but there has yet to be a day that it wasn’t all worth it. I also know that being in different professional environments has helped me become the therapist I am today by expanding the knowledge base from which I connect with clients, and has given me the knowledge to successfully run my own business. I started and own a private therapy practice in the Highlands neighborhood of Denver. I work with Couples and Individuals who are looking for a supportive and safe environment to address the challenges they are struggling with. My areas of focus are: • Relationships • Trauma • Anxiety • Life transitions • Depression • Stress • Increased connectivity • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) • Divorce • Separation • Substance use I am always most proud of the work clients and I do together when we can use their own words and experiences to help them develop new perspective and insights into their circumstances. Sometimes we just need another person to cohesively reflect what our intuition knows to help us move forward. I am also extremely proud of the EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) work I do with clients. EMDR is a powerful therapeutic technique that uses bilateral stimulation to assist clients in processing distressing memories and beliefs. There is something about EMDR that is intangible in its power, but the way that it can help people heal from trauma is truly remarkable to be a part of. One of my strengths as a therapist is my ability to remove my own opinion about a person’s choices from the therapeutic process. I believe that in many cases there isn’t an inherent definition of what is right or wrong. The power comes from a client learning to understand their choices to determine what is right or wrong for them, choosing if they want to do anything to change, and if so, how they want things to be different. I am honored to be part of an environment where people can come to share some of their most vulnerable parts. Every client’s ability to do so speaks to their courage, bravery, strength, and resiliency.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
There are so many people who have helped support me along the way. My husband is my ride or die and confidant. I am also so grateful to my two mentors, and Dick Schwartz who is the founder of the Internal Family Systems Theory, which has created a strong foundation for so much of my therapeutic work.