We had the good fortune of connecting with Xandra Hawes and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Xandra, how did you come up with the idea for your business?
Soul Essence Center grew out of my awareness that we cannot live meaningful lives without bringing our full spiritual selves to the body, and our full, physical depths to our souls.
As a psychotherapist, psychic-medium and energy healer, I teach my students how to heal trauma and access their source energy through simple energy medicine tools, so they can finally trust their intuition without overthinking it.
My business began as an attempt to synthesize the years of education and experience I received in working in the mental health field, the healing arts and intuitive realms. After studying psychology, psychic-mediumship and various forms of shamanism, I realized each field was powerful in its’ own right, but became even stronger and more wholistic when they informed and supported one another.
There are many different branches on a tree, but in the end, it is still the same tree. Although psychology, spirituality and energy healing have their respective branches, they are ultimately part of the same core root system to lead you home to your highest self: your soul essence.
My business is like a huge Cottonwood tree, stretching layers deep into the rich soil, and simultaneously high-fiving the cosmos. Through connecting the mental, physical and spiritual realms, Soul Essence Center is a healing bridge between earth and sky, our body and spirit.
When I studied psychotherapy, we would often talk about the soul, our wisest selves, but never name this core wisdom energy or how to work with it. And when I studied energy healing and psychic mediumship, I found that most of my teachers did not recognize how trauma lives in the body, and how our attachment style can cause barriers to receiving or trusting spiritual information.
Each field has the potential to bring us back to the greatest medicine of all – connection with our soul essence. However, their combined potential brings an integrated and grounded sense of self-trust, and the ability to self-actualize our full spiritual potential into our bodies, and more fully into the world. Soul Essence Center is born from the combined knowledge of past wisdom traditions and watered with the awareness and insights of the modern age.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
Oh boy. If I have learned anything from this journey in regards to rising professionally in my career, it is to never let your intellect rule over your heart. My heart and spirit are always watering my purpose, while my intellect has to understand the outcome before taking a step towards anything. If I only follow my intellect, it often takes the fun and play out of creating and growing.
As a business owner, it can be very easy to match the status quo of being an organization driven strictly by profit and competition, rather than a heartfelt desire to serve and to honor.
My business is soul-centered, and I have committed to years of in-depth, personal healing work in order to let my heart fully guide me in my business decisions, so that I can do the highest good for the people I work with and mother earth.
My heart has always trusted the unfolding process of my business, even when my mind has raced circles around it, panting and anxiously listing all the education I never received to start an LLC, such as business or graphic design courses.
My heart told me to make a podcast to expand my free offerings, and my brain reminded me that I had no knowledge of recording and sound equipment, editing software or any experience in public speaking.
My heart told me to vend at wellness fairs and offer substantially-reduced psychic-readings to help people in need, and my ego told me that I would never be a respected psychotherapist if I “came out” and combined my training with spirituality.
I am so excited that I have the training to give my mind and ego a hug when it has been afraid rather than wrestle it to the ground. Sometimes the fear is just old stories that if we don’t know an outcome and we fail, we reinforce a core wound that we are not enough.
When you are on a mission to help people recognize their soul essence, it is a process of looking at the spectrum of light and dark within ourselves and doing this soul work in order to guide others into their own.
When you lead by your own soul work and example, you give other people permission to not be afraid to go there as well.
My training as a therapist taught me that you can only lead clients are far as you have walked yourself, and so I have walked, swam and biked my way through my mental, emotional, intellectual, psychical and spiritual bodies so that my business is built from own awareness and healing work, rather than just education and theory.
In order to create a career built off of helping other people trust their intuition, you have to go through the mud pit of learning to wrestle with and surrender to your own inner heart knowing.
I am so excited that I have allowed myself this freedom and self-love to build a business from this foundation, this labor of love.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Denver Day Itinerary Idea #1 – Head to Denver and take them to VooDoo Donuts for breakfast and walk through Denver Botanical Gardens. Afterwards, grab a quick lunch at Bang Up to the Elephant and head over to the Molly Brown mansion for a tour. Then, head to “Smash It” and have a blast hitting televisions with baseball bats. Then, drive over to Linger for dinner and get a rooftop table and enjoy the view of the city. Finally, grab Little Man Ice cream and people watch (I have done all of these things in the same day and it was actually very workable time wise).
Boulder Day Itinerary Idea #2 – Grab brunch at Tangerine and head over to Eldorado Springs to hike the Eldorado Springs Canyon Trail. Afterwards, head to Mountain Sun and grab a late lunch, and then pop over to Isolate to do a Float Tank Session. I might end the evening with Japango and then going to The Root for an after dinner kava drink and maybe some live music (usually on Fridays).
Other fun ideas that are around Boulder that I would consider: Taking a trip to Lyons and eating the amazing gluten-free pizza at Pizza Bar 66, driving the Peak to Peak in fall and eating at Kathmandu in Nederland.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Absolutely – I love this!
1) Naropa University
2) Psychic Horizons Center
1) Jan Stutelberg
2) Nick Hagan
3) Willow Arlenea
Other: Podcasts – Available on Apple, Google & Spotify Podcasts under “Soul Essence Wellness Center”
Lauren Ellie Photgraphy, Boulder Photographer