We had the good fortune of connecting with Hudson Wilkins and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Hudson, what was your thought process behind starting your own business?
When I completed graduate school I believed that private practice wasn’t something I’d ever be able to pursue. I’d always been an employee, typically worked in group settings, and was unknowingly stuck in an employee mindset. It wasn’t until I took on my first therapist job that I realized how isolating this role actually is. I had incredibly little contact with my colleagues, wasn’t enjoying the kind of therapy work I was doing, and was definitely not being paid enough. One day I was taking stock of how unhappy I was. My wife pointed out to me that we could live for a while on her marketing salary alone, and before the night was through I’d written up a resignation letter, and declared as an LLC. I wish I could say that I’d had enough forethought to claim I’d always known being my own boss was the way I’d feel the most confident and competent in my career; but the truth is that it was years in to my practice before I realized just how much I don’t thrive working in someone else’s system. I know for a fact I wouldn’t be able to be here right now without my wife’s support and unwavering faith in me to make my business succeed.
Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I help those who feel disempowered to feel powerful again. “I’m not exactly sure how to explain what I do. But I know it when I’m doing it.” I first heard a mentor say that about ten years ago. I had no idea what she meant until I actually started practicing as a therapist myself – and specifically when I began noticing real and sustained growth and empowerment in my clients. Her comment felt really confusing to me, as if she was tapping in to some intense therapist wisdom that I didn’t yet know. Now that I’ve been in mental health for over a decade I’m finally coming to understand her. I don’t know how to explain exactly how I help my clients to feel safe enough to process their trauma. But I know it when I’m doing it. What I do know how to explain, is that I’ve created my own style of engaging in the therapy process that I truly know helps my clients process through their traumatic experiences, reconnect with their sense of empowerment, and develop more meaningful relationships with the people in their lives. As humans we experience and interact in the world in four main ways – Mind, Emotion, Body, and Spirit. When most people think about therapy they imagine talk therapy – specifically talking about past experiences and emotions. That’s important work, but it misses the whole of us. If we aren’t spending our time together in therapy noticing and experiencing the truth of our body’s connection to our lived experiences we’re missing out on a huge piece of our reality. If we aren’t spending our time together in therapy noticing and experiencing the truth of our soul’s connection to our community and to our grief we’re missing out a huge piece of our reality. It’s the intolerability of noticing all these sometimes painful pieces of ourselves in isolation that makes healing and growing feel so unachievable. When we’re together in therapy we get to experience the safety of a secure relationship. And in that secure connection touching in to the hurt places of our souls becomes manageable.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
There is literally no chance in hell that I’d be as successful as I am right now without the unwavering support of my wife, Grace. She deserves more than a little credit.